When your kids are acting out, do you resort to yelling? Many people who were brought up being yelled at tend to yell at their own family members. This observation alone should alert you to the long-lasting consequences of yelling at your kids. Kids learn by example, and when you consistently yell you are teaching them that the only way to be heard is to raise your voice. You may be concerned that you can’t change, but according to these 15 blogs it is never too late to change the yelling behavior.
Techniques to Use to Avoid Yelling
When you feel yourself getting angry, count to 10 and get yourself back under control. This may seem trite, but it can work. Many times yelling is a gut reaction, but by giving yourself 10 seconds to calm down you can curb your response. To learn tips on how to stop yelling at your kids, take a look at these five blogs.
- Parenting Tips: How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids Anytime you have to repeat yourself to your kids, lower your voice instead of raising it. This will force your kids to stop yelling because they won’t be able to hear you otherwise.
- How to Become a Patient Parent Counting to 10 is a common technique used to calm down before reacting; this blogger discusses this technique and others that can help you regain your calm so you can avoid yelling.
- 101 Things to Do Instead of Yelling or Spanking Instead of resorting to punishment, take a walk or go to the park to remove everyone from the situation and to take a mini time-out.
- 5 Pleasant Alternatives to Yelling When you feel yourself getting upset or stressed, do something physical, such as push-ups or going for a run. This will give you a positive outlet to channel your feelings into.
- How I Stopped Yelling at My Kids Don’t let yelling be an option to dealing with bad behavior, and instead try to lead your kids to good behavior by example.
How to Actively Listen to Your Child
Before yelling at your child for misbehaving, you might try asking him what’s going on. Sometimes kids will act up or misbehave in an effort to get your attention. Other times they may feel frustrated with something that has happened. Make this a teachable moment and give your child alternate ways to deal with his frustration instead of misbehaving. Learn more ways to listen to your kids in these five blog articles.
- 5 Ways to Help You Stop Yelling at Your Kids When your child is upset, ask him how he’s feeling at that moment. Listening to the answer will give you time to control your temper and avoid yelling at your child.
- Stop Yelling So Your Kids Can Hear You Yelling means that you have lost control of the situation. Instead, tune into what’s going on and pinpoint what is making you lose control, then react calmly.
- Instead of Yelling, Try This! Sometimes children are unable to verbalize how they are feeling, and they need a parent to help them. Ask your child why he resorted to a particular behavior, and if he can’t answer right away try to help him by giving him choices.
- I Need to Stop Yelling at My Kids Ask your kids why they are not obeying what you are saying and listen to what they tell you. Kids push limits, but they also have feelings, and if you ask them what’s going on you may experience a memorable moment that you would have otherwise missed.
- 5 Winning Strategies That Don’t Include Yelling or Nagging Reduce the amount of commitments that you have and then spend your extra time connecting with your kids and listening to what’s going on with them when they get frustrated.
How Yelling Effects Your Kids
Yelling may help you vent your frustration, but at what cost? According to Dr. Mark Brady, PHD and author of A Father’s Book of Listening: Essential Practices for Truly Loving Our Children, children are fragile, and yelling at them hurts them emotionally. You can read more about the effects of yelling at your kids by reading these five blogs.
- Stop Yelling at Your Kids! When you have to repeat your requests several times and your kids won’t listen unless you yell at them, you may be conditioning them to think it’s OK to not respond unless someone is yelling.
- Michele Borba: How to Be a Calmer, Yell-Free Family—Are You Ready to Take the Challenge? Kids learn by example, and when you yell, they will too. This can cause them to resort to anger and yelling instead of dealing with things in a healthier way.
- Stop Yelling Daddy! (Part 2) You can find several studies referenced in this blog post that detail some of the negative side-effects that yelling can have on your children.
- How Yelling Parents Hurt Kids Yelling at your child can cause him to fear you. If you are yelling, you have lost control and may say hurtful things to your child that could damage his self-esteem.
- Purposeful Parents: Stop Yelling and Start Parenting Read this blog article for some of the long-term effects that yelling can have on your children.